Complicated question: Child support, escrow, contempt of court, and more?

I'm going to try and nutshell this as much as possible: My husband pays child support for his son that was born out of wedlock in Ohio. Ohio law states that unmarried fathers have no rights to their children until legal paternity has been established, and until he files some sort of custody suit in the corresponding county. After we had paternity established, but before we could file a motion with the court, the mother handed custodial rights to her parents without providing sufficient contact information to the court (without the courts knowledge that she really DID know how to contact us, CS after all has our info on file), therefore we were unaware of the change in custody until AFTER the %26quot;uncontested%26quot; hearing. Now we pay CS to BOTH parties (arrears to the mother as well as current support to the grandparents), but nobody will allow us to see the child. We have filed a Motion to Modify Custody, but in Franklin Co. Ohio, it takes 5-7 months to reach a court date, and continuances happen FAR too often. Soooo... With the mother off in San Diego in the Navy (refusing to provide us with contact information, as well as her parents refusing to cooperate), and the grandparents not allowing us to see the child based on the mother's requests, does anyone know what we can do to serve the mother with the court papers that we filed (one hearing has already been continued due to the lack of service on her)? Also, does anyone know if we can utilize escrow to withold the CS from the mother until she provides us with sufficient contact info in order to uphold her responsibilites to receive CS?



Before anyone asks, no we do not have an attorney at present, but the next hearing is scheduled in September. Since my husband and I are both FT students, we will have the funding to retain an attorney by June with our next student aid disbursement.



One last thing: Since we had our own child AFTER the original order was set, and we now have a substantially lower income since said order, can we request a review on the case to possibly lower the child support to less than the current $458 / month, or does it really have to wait the 36 months?



Any and all help would be much appreciated! Thanks ahead of time!Complicated question: Child support, escrow, contempt of court, and more?Wow. Okay, I'll try to help:



%26quot;Does anyone know what we can do to serve the mother with the court papers that we filed?%26quot; - You can hire a process server to track her down and serve the paperwork.



%26quot;Does anyone know if we can utilize escrow to withold the CS from the mother?%26quot; - No. Child support and visitation are separate issues entirely.



%26quot;Can we request a review on the case to possibly lower the child support?%26quot; - Yes. You can motion to modify child support at any time you meet the guidelines for modification in your jurisdiction.



As you've probably guessed by now, you really need to retain an attorney for custody battles. Call your county Bar Association for referrals to firms that specialize in family law, then speak to a few about your financial situation. You may find one that will take a low retainer, accept minimal weekly or monthly payments, and allow you to pay the bulk of it in June.



Hope that helps. Good luck. :)Complicated question: Child support, escrow, contempt of court, and more?You're welcome. Thanx for BA! :)



%26quot;Loves%26quot; and %26quot;donot%26quot; have some good ideas, too. Try the university and the Navy. Best wishes.



Thanx, %26quot;Loves%26quot; :)

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Complicated question: Child support, escrow, contempt of court, and more?Trai is completely correct in her answer.



You may have one additional resource as a full time student. Some universities that are connected to a law school have law clinics available for students at the university. Second and third year law students are working for grades under the supervision of members of the law faculty. The services are provided without cost to the students. Look online at law schools connected with your institution or in the community. I hope you can find some help.Complicated question: Child support, escrow, contempt of court, and more?There are situations where you can get %26quot;orders to shorten time%26quot; or ex-parte emergency orders to address situations. It might be worth filing an emergency order for contact with his son, so that at least you can

claim that you tried this and were denied. (They'll try to claim that you've never been involved with his son, even though he was wrongfully denied contact and denied the opportunity to contest this change in custody.) They'll try to delay it until they can say, %26quot;Well the child is 3 years old now and has hardly even seen his father - it's not in the child's best interest for his Dad to be involved NOW.%26quot;



You DO need a lawyer to help you with this. I'm so sorry for your situation, and wish you the best of luck in the courts!



P.S. Check out www.fathersandfamilies.org - they're fighting to fix the family court systems!Complicated question: Child support, escrow, contempt of court, and more?File with child support enforcement to modify the child support due to a lower income and the fact that you are being double charged. Do it immediately. Contact the navy for her contact information. Her commanding officer will rip her apart for this behavior. The military is very strict about everyone being on the up and up.Complicated question: Child support, escrow, contempt of court, and more?I don't have much to give you in terms of help, but just know that there are others out there going through similar situations. I'll be thinking of your family.

Complicated question: Child support, contempt of court, escrow, and more?

I'm going to try and nutshell this as much as possible: My husband pays child support for his son that was born out of wedlock in Ohio. Ohio law states that unmarried fathers have no rights to their children until legal paternity has been established, and until he files some sort of custody suit in the corresponding county. After we had paternity established, but before we could file a motion with the court, the mother handed custodial rights to her parents without providing sufficient contact information to the court (without the courts knowledge that she really DID know how to contact us, CS after all has our info on file), therefore we were unaware of the change in custody until AFTER the %26quot;uncontested%26quot; hearing. Now we pay CS to BOTH parties (arrears to the mother as well as current support to the grandparents), but nobody will allow us to see the child. We have filed a Motion to Modify Custody, but in Franklin Co. Ohio, it takes 5-7 months to reach a court date, and continuances happen FAR too often. Soooo... With the mother off in San Diego in the Navy (refusing to provide us with contact information, as well as her parents refusing to cooperate), and the grandparents not allowing us to see the child based on the mother's requests, does anyone know what we can do to serve the mother with the court papers that we filed (one hearing has already been continued due to the lack of service on her)? Also, does anyone know if we can utilize escrow to withold the CS from the mother until she provides us with sufficient contact info in order to uphold her responsibilites to receive CS?



Before anyone asks, no we do not have an attorney at present, but the next hearing is scheduled in September. Since my husband and I are both FT students, we will have the funding to retain an attorney by June with our next student aid disbursement.



One last thing: Since we had our own child AFTER the original order was set, and we now have a substantially lower income since said order, can we request a review on the case to possibly lower the child support to less than the current $458 / month, or does it really have to wait the 36 months?



Any and all help would be much appreciated! Thanks ahead of time!Complicated question: Child support, contempt of court, escrow, and more?Yes, you can ask for a review of your case to get that child support lowered from where it stands. Its always based on income, so if you are not making as much as he was, then it shoud be lowered, and your income does NOT count, btw. I would not even mention it. They can not make you pay for the child support when it is not your child, so do not include it.



I would also sue for visitation rights, and also request that you only have to pay the child support to the people who have physical custody of you child. You shoud not have to pay two parties for one child.



Good luck. It is a messy business, but you need to get that lawyer and work out a payment plan so you do not get screwed. And if she gave her parental rights to her parents, you should avoid the child support altogether and sue for custody of his child. It would be cheaper, and you wont have to worry about visitation.



Plus, him as the father has more right to the child then the mother's parents. good luck.Complicated question: Child support, contempt of court, escrow, and more?Sorry, but you're only going to get good advice on this from an attorney. If you do not have one, GET ONE. Regardless of what anyone says here on Y!A, without one you're never going to see that kid. I guarantee it. So with that in mind, there is no point in wasting your time here.



Good luck!Complicated question: Child support, contempt of court, escrow, and more?What is going on is terrible. I do know that in my state the court does not care if you have another child, the child support stays the same. We are dealing with that issue.

I think that I would write to the grandparents and local DHR and explain that you can not pay the 458 a month. I would let them know that you would like to see the child and will be glad to help them but if they refuse, that you will let the court decide what is fair. Maybe they will step up if they think you are not going to pay any more. It is just an idea...

good luckComplicated question: Child support, contempt of court, escrow, and more?Im like you in that alot of this doesnt make sense ansd should be over turned by the courts once you do get this into court. An attorney will be a great asset here as he will know how to circumvent the legal system and get something done. Her mother has no right to have custody here so that should be the first thing overturned so the attorney will be well worth his cost here for you two. The double CS should be the next thing to go. Something is definitely wrong here almost like they have some friends in the court system there for this to be happening. Contact an attorney as soon as you are able and good luck. Also have you btried legal aid fro free help here since youre students with little or no income, its worth a shotComplicated question: Child support, contempt of court, escrow, and more?Because you have a child, you can ask for a motion to modify child support. You don't have to wait 36 mos. because he had a change of situation.



I can understand why there are two pymts. One is for the overdue cs and one is for the current. Because they go to two different people, there are two pymts. There is a penalty when you get behind.



I don't see how you can withhold cs, because your husband OWES it. In fact, part of the problem is that he got behind. I've never heard of the escrow idea, and I doubt it will work. Many, many people get cs and don't tell the NCP where they live, WITH the children in tow. It's doubtful that the court will allow cs to be withheld.



Have you considered filing an Emergency Custody Order? I think you'd be a shoo in to get it, because parent's rights trump gand-parents rights, and the mom is gone. Since it's based on her disappearance, it could probably be done without service to her.



Have you tried locating the mom through the military? I'm sure your husband has her social. I don't know about that.

What is an appropriate time frame to wait before asking for more time with a child?

My husband didn't get to meet his daughter until she was nearly 4. (Long drawn out story involving a vindictive mother)



He has been working on a relationship with his daughter since August of '08 (a couple weeks before her 4th birthday). At the end of October she started spending nights with us. Currently she spends every other weekend and every Wednesday night with us. She has adjusted to it well and my husband wants to add another regular night a week that he has with his daughter. The problem, though, is that she has only been spending nights here for 4 months and has only known her father for a little over 6 months. The order wasn't even officially filed until just before Christmas even though the final court date was at the end of November. (I don't know if the file date matters more than the actual time spent or not)



The mother of this child and her boyfriend are about to move into an apartment of their own instead of living with the mother's dad. We know that my husband has to wait until a significant change (such as a move) is made in the child's life before he can file for a change in custody/vistitation. This move will give him the required change, but is it too soon to file for another night per week with any hope of winning? (The mother will not agree. He would negotiate it with her, but she doesn't want him to see the child at all)



I'm thinking it's too early, but how long should things have been allowed to develop before he can ask for a change? 6 months in total? A year? More?



(And just to make it clear, we are keeping the best interest of the child in mind here. If we didn't think she'd be comfortable with it we wouldn't do it.)What is an appropriate time frame to wait before asking for more time with a child?Life is short and children are precious...If you can as a unit handle this situation its better for all. But who am I my question is if the mother didn't want the father to have anything to do with the child how did you get overnight visits? I have been fighting since 2001 and the court always seems to side with my ex, now our daughter is 13 and I want her to talk to the judge and my ex doesn't want that, but I know if somehow I could get the judge to talk with her they would see she wants more time...What is an appropriate time frame to wait before asking for more time with a child?that depends.... how much more time does he want to miss with his child ?What is an appropriate time frame to wait before asking for more time with a child?the approprite time is to do it when you wont./ the kid aint getting any younger



beside he only have her 8 days a month now anyway so ask for more time

i read a lot on here and everyone here know the momma cant move to far without notifying the dad about this if it will affect the kid schooling and how close she is to her daddy now





check you local laws on this before she move!!!!What is an appropriate time frame to wait before asking for more time with a child?take it slow, it sounds like she is dealing with alot of change.What is an appropriate time frame to wait before asking for more time with a child?its about damn time I see someone say its about the childs intrest! Good for you guys!



Id say follow ur heart and if you dont see it being an issue and its not about the money or wants or anything along that line Id say go for it! Every child deserves their mother and their father!



So glad to hear shes doing good with whats been going on!What is an appropriate time frame to wait before asking for more time with a child?it's too soon for the child's sake to be asking for another night, and i don't think a judge will give you another day at this point. and a vindictive mother? i imagine she has her own story to tell. tell your husband to enjoy his time with his child and not ruin it, and everyone's relationship, by fighting about something you're not going to get.What is an appropriate time frame to wait before asking for more time with a child?The fact that he is her dad and wants to see her should have no bearing on the time frame on which to pursue more visitation. He should ask for and get as much time with his daughter as your state allows. I hope he has an attorney, if not he needs to get one ASAP. A family law lawyer is who he should be calling.What is an appropriate time frame to wait before asking for more time with a child?I don't think it is too early. A child would want to spend more time with a person who they feel loved by, especially their father. It can never hurt to try.

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I hope I am doing the right thing?

Last night I made the decision to change the custody arrangement with my ex. We divorced two years ago after I found out he was having an affair. We tried the 50/50 custody arrangement in the beginning but our then 8 year old son did not handle it well. We changed our agreement so that he would live with me and spend every other weekend and one night a week with his father.



He is almost 11 now. And he has been asking questions about girls - very innocent questions - and other things that his father could probably answer much better than I can. I realized that he needs more time with his Dad. I have never been an 11 year old boy so I do not know what he is going through. My ex jumped at the chance for more time. So how do I talk to my son about this? I hope I am doing the right thing?well, little boy want to know about girl as much as the little girl want to know about little boy.



Now you are a mom so i believe you would know what intention of the boy to the girl. you also know best what little girl intention to the boy. So you are the perfect candidate to me.

It is also not wrong to let the boy see his Father more often.

Don't forget, by the time he is 15year old, none of you have the custody over him.I hope I am doing the right thing?Ask your son what he wants, not what you think



he needs.I hope I am doing the right thing?Im a mother of 5 boys and it is not easy when they hit you with those questions, lucky you have his Dad because I didn't and so I had to play that roll, but I was honest with them and I know they appreciate me for that honesty. In your situation, I would tell my son the truth, that you feel his Dad can answer his questions better because they are both guys. Good luck to you!I hope I am doing the right thing?First of all I have been an 11 yr old boy in his position exactly. My parents were divorced and they arranged the same thing that you and your ex did (every other weekend and one night a week).



Unfortunately, my biological father was not the one that I went to when I was going through my teenage years, it was my Step Father (who later was allowed to legally adopt me so that I could take his last name and be a legal part of our %26quot;new%26quot; family).



Anyway, I know what he is going through and I can almost promise you (based on what you wrote above) that your son would very much like to see his father.



I would advise you to ask him just to be sure that is his desire, but leave it open for him to decide the when and how, within certain boundaries of course. It sounds like his father is anxious for more time with your son and that in itself in this day and age is not something to be taken lightly or for granted.I hope I am doing the right thing?I'd go to the bookstore and check out books on talking to your son about sex as a single mother. My son started asking questions, but he can't stay at his father's house during the week because of school... so when these %26quot;questions%26quot; come up we have a family night. We go to dinner and play miniature golf and that gives then time to talk. I'll make an excuse to leave for half an hour or something so they have their guy time.

What are some common sense things that a 12 y/o should know?

I'm hoping this is posted in the rigth category, b/c when I post things like this is marraige and divorce, I end up getting trashed. I am a stepmom of a 12 y/o 5th grader (his dad and I have been together for 4 yrs., bio-mom and ny hub have very trenuious relationship- cannot talk to each other). My hub had custody of him from 9 months to age 8, when the child was sexually abused by mom's older son (my stepson's half brother- stepson was 6, brother was 14). brother was put away in juvenile dentention, and somehow theh courts thought when they asked the chhild where he wanted to live, he said mom, so custody was changed. Mom made it impossible for my hub to remain involved in school, medical, etc. so we write directly to the sources.



Recently (we live 5 houses away from the ex and son), the older brother was arrested while in his residential half way house porgram (we only found out b/c the teacher told us half brother brought him to school). He was bailed out by mom in mid Dec, and his trial has been postponed twice.



Since borther moved in (and some of this has been beforehand), the 12 y/o stepson has been sinking fast....he lies to me and hubby, the teacher (we email each other one to twice a wk), hasn't been doing hmwk (all midterms say he lacks personal resonsibility), his medical problmes are thru the roof (he's 100+ lbs overweight w/ hi cholestrol, being seen by specialtist, but mom and kid don't do what's told).



Over the weekend, my hub and I have begun to see how far behind the kid is- (he was made to repeat kindergarten becuase mom wouldn't take him on her visitation days 2 weekdays a week, so he technically went parttime) he can't write cursive, doesn't know his math facts (multipllication division, etc), doesn't know personal info like either mom or dad's address (In case of emergency), his birthday, can't recite days of the week on order and months in order, etc. I can't figure out how school continues to pass him to the next grade if he has this much trouble. Last week, my hub got an email from the teacher and had to go to school monday b/c first he teased a female classmate to tears that she had breast cancer and was going to die, then an hour later the teacher intercepted a story he wrote of %26quot;sexual and inappropriate content.%26quot; My husband and I have questoinsed the courts how can the abusive borther live in the same house as the victim, and school on how they are so blind as to the issues (Maryland apparently has a no child left behind theory, but how is he supposed to make it)...in other things, he's taken pocket knives to school, and when a letter came home last week about some chhild suicides going on in our area, he joked at lunch to classmates he was going to kill hiimself-- launching a intervention of calling both parents, adn pulling hiim fromm class.



We don't have money to go to court and request a change of custody, and at this point the child resents both of us becasue we have rules (no computer until grades come up, clean your room, eat what we give you, no snacking,etc) and we make to much for legal aid to help. I'm going to write a letter to the teacher and superintendent voicing my concerns, but I'm looking to see if anyone can name other %26quot;common sense things%26quot; that should be known at this point of a 12 y/o.



Thanks to all- I apprecate your helpWhat are some common sense things that a 12 y/o should know?Wow you are in a pickle! Yes, your son should know things like his birthday, parents addresses, also work phone numbers, emergency contact, basic health information (what he is allergic too), but I think he has a lot more problems than just not understanding %26quot;common sense%26quot;.



He needs counseling. There should be local (free) programs to help your son. There are cases where children who were abused turn into abusers, and him living with his abusers cannot be healthy.



You and your husband need to do everything you can to get him far away from the dysfunction and into a healthy and stable environment.



My sympathies are with you. Please stay strong and keep fighting for your son.

Whats going to happen in court when i return?

i went to my child custody hearing it went good me being the father of my daughter and having custody while mother barely got visits after 4 years of no contact do to history of drugs she had filed for full custody and me getting visits every other weekend the judge immediately gave her a response of no and said he will give her monitored visits due to being absent so long and told her that my daughter would be very angry and emotional i was glad the judge did his job and not judge me because im the man and shes the mother but he told us to come back in 3 months to see how it went what will happen and why would he tell us to come back the order was asking change of custody and visits which they gave her visits and request for custody was denied that's all her paper work asked for shouldn't she have to file another order to ask for more things or what will happenWhats going to happen in court when i return?What will happen is the judge will question you, question the child's mother look over the evidence as presented by the person who supervised the visitations with the mother and the judge will make a further determination as to what will be best for the child.Whats going to happen in court when i return?No, if the Judge ordered another hearing, then this was just a Temporary Hearing. He may want to see how the monitored visits are going, and they are going well, then expand them to unmonitored. The court never views custody of a child as a cut and dry matter. Most courts very much want the mother tpo have a healthy relationship with their child. If you have attorneys, you may want to work it out prior to the hearing. Compromise a little, and perhaps the court will agree with those terms.

Help?! My ex's fiancee cut off and ruined my children's hair?

The fiancee of my ex-husband ruined my two and six year old daughters%26#039; hair by cutting it off completely down to the top of their head. To make matters worse she put relaxer on my six year old%26#039;s hair too. Her excuse is that she could not manage my children%26#039;s hair because it was too curly. My children are biracial (I am black and their father is white, so is his fiancee) so they have naturally curly hair. However she claims she wanted to make it straight so it would be easier to manage. I have always taken care of their hair. I style it before I send them to their father%26#039;s and they always come back with their hair tangled up and messy. His excuse is that they don%26#039;t have the time to do their hair. I have been teaching my daughter how to brush and comb her own and her sister%26#039;s hair so that they can do it themselves while over at their father%26#039;s, then all he and his fiancee would have to do is style it. He accused me of being lazy by having them do it themselves and did not want them touching their own hair. So he let his fiancee and her friend ruin their hair. He did not talk or consult with me about it. He gave her permission to put a relaxer on my child%26#039;s hair but they claim that they did not have enough money to take her to a salon to do it ( which I would not allow because six is way too young to be getting a relaxer) so she and her friend went to the store and bought it themselves. They put it on her hair, tried to use a straightening iron too which also burned her hair off, and then cut it down. Then they cut my little one%26#039;s hair but they did not put relaxer on it thank god. Long story short: I took my daughter to the emergency room. She did not have any scabbing that you can sometimes get from a relaxer but her scalp was red and tender. Her face and eyes were red because she had been crying. My mother, who went with me to the ER, called CPS. They lied and said that my children had lice and that is why they cut it off. They also said that my daughter had an allergic reaction to the lice shampoo and that is why her head was so red and sore and why she was crying. Needless to say that is not what he told me and my mother and I have further proof of that. His fiancee then left me a voice message accusing me of being a vindictive bad mother, and that I was trying to slander her. She said that I should be more sympathic to her because she put herself and her baby (she just found out she is pregnant last month) at risk because of the chemicals in the relaxer which my ex let her do. She also said that she would make damn sure that she and my ex would get full custody of my children. This is not the first time that something like this has happened but this is one of the worst. My children have come home from my ex%26#039;s house with food poisoning, diaherra, and even my little one%26#039;s dirty training diapers stuffed in to her travel bag stinking up her clothes and toys (their excuse is that it is not their job to get rid of my child%26#039;s diapers and they don%26#039;t want them stinking up their house). I have gone to court over these incidents and the court stated that these were isolated incidents and that no abuse, neglect, or anything irresponsible was going on to warrant a change of custody or visitation. CPS finished their investigation and they felt that it would not be in my children%26#039;s best interest to be at their father%26#039;s for full weekend visits because of conflicting stories that they told and living conditions at their house. I am going back to court to get full physical and legal custody. We have joint physical and legal custody. His family is telling me I am making too big of a deal of this and that they will make sure I do not get full custody. These are the same people that let his older brother and his ex wife neglect their children and they never took a stand against it. The state of Indiana had to. My family is supporting my children and I through this. But what I really want to know is how can I get my children and I through this ordeal? How can I help my daughter heal from this situation emotionally as well as physically? Would my ex lose custody or have his rights revoked? Could they be ordered to take parenting classes or have supervised visitation? Shouldn%26#039;t he have talked to me first about letting his fiancee or anyone change their hair? Or am I really just being over dramatic too the whole thing? I really need some advice on this. Serious answers please! Thanks!Help?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?Wow, that lady is crazy! She whined about putting herself and her baby at risk from the chemicals in the relaxer, when it was completely unnecessary if she%26#039;d just styled it? And they%26#039;re not her children, so she has no business at all doing anything more permanent to their hair than washing, brushing, and styling it. And, you need to talk to your ex, and tell him that he doesn%26#039;t have a clue about their hair, both as a male and as someone who doesn%26#039;t have curly hair himself, and you%26#039;ve had a lifetime of experience on that part and are perfectly capable of teaching your daughters how to properly care for their hair.



For your daughter, remind her that her hair will grow back, and buy her a cute hat or some pretty bandanas or something if she%26#039;s upset about the haircut. If things come down to going to court, I%26#039;m pretty sure that your six-year-old will be able to say what was done to her hair, and other things like the fact that there were dirty diapers in her sister%26#039;s travel bag.



Now, I%26#039;m guessing you%26#039;re ex%26#039;s fiance has no clue how to style your children%26#039;s hair - I%26#039;ve got to admit that I only have a vague clue of what I%26#039;d do with your girls%26#039; hair in terms of styling, and that%26#039;s only because I had a friend as a child with hair that was textured like she was african-american (strangely enough, she was blond and pasty white). So, if your girls have to spend any time at all with this lady in the future, I%26#039;d suggest that you take them to a hair-braiding place and have cornrows or something similar done first, and make sure to specify to both adults that your children%26#039;s hair is in a low-maintenance style and as such does not need to be undone, brushed, styled, etc. by anyone. That way, your ex%26#039;s fiance will have absolutely NO reason to touch your girls%26#039; hair, at all, ever.Help?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?Okay this was way too long to read but I%26#039;d tell the beotch to never touch my kid again and then punch her in the face ;)Help?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?You%26#039;re not being overdramatic, you are looking out for your childrens best interests. I think the biggest problem is you are talking to her. Your ex is responsible for the happiness of the children. From the incidents you%26#039;ve stated, it sounds like you%26#039;ll get the full custody and dont worry what his crazy part of the family says. Just focus on getting a good case together and do what is best for your kids.Help?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?Sweetie, I know we hate when things like this happen but I don%26#039;t think there%26#039;s much you can do about it. My daughter when through a similar situation, but we are in NC. Good luck!Help?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?NO, you are not being overly dramatic. The fiancee is punishing your children because she is jealous of you and hates that her man was with you and especially that he has kids with you. Stand your ground and DO NOT let her or that family convince you otherwise. He is harming his own children because of her hatred towards you and your children, or any-ones, don%26#039;t deserve that. Keep standing your ground and the courts will eventually take notice! Good luck!Help?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?Lady..I am sorry but this is wayyy to long I got through about a quarter of it and I couldnt finish it. Maybe edit it and take out some of the %26quot;story parts%26quot; and just write out the key points.Help?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?wow



i agree they had no right to do that to your little girl, the poor thign must be so upset about her hair



its awful that your ex, their father, is so careless to let these things happed



best of luck in court and i hope it all works out because all these things that are happening to your girls sound terrible and youre not overreacting at all!Help?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?wow, you have a right to be angry and no you are not overreacting. I would be upset too. If your child is 6 years old then she can probably tell the courts what was done to her hair. She may not know what a relaxer is but she can tell them about the flattening iron and that they cut her hair off. Your ex should have spoken to you first before doing anything with their hair. Make sure you get a copy of the ER report and any other doctor reports you can get and take them to court with you. If you fight and do get full custody then I would recommend you ask for supervised visits whenever your children are with him and his fiancee. Best of luck to you and your children. I hope you will become closer as a family with your daughters dealing with this situation.Help?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?They are little kids, and you just have to tell them that they are beautiful. My niece kind of worries about it. Everyone in her school is white, and she is biracial and has doubts even though she is a very pretty girl.Help?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?wooo...you said long story short way up a the top..this is way to hecticly long to read even tho i read it becuase i am bored. I got nothing tho except next time I%26#039;d just pay for a haircut..children%26#039;s hair cuts arent more then like $10 bucksHelp?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?Wow hitting her won%26#039;t solve it tho. Sounds like your doing your best. Your lucky you have your fam behind you. It takes a strong person to deal with people like that Good luck It will get betrHelp?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?dont worry im pretty sure Obama would know excalty what to do!!!!!Help?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?This is what I always say if you do not know what you are doing with another person%26#039;s hair leave it alone. My best friends child is mixed race and he has no clue what to do with his daughter%26#039;s hair. So, he takes the time to go to a salon and have them show her what to do. You do have a right to react the way you do because those our your children and you should be apart of decision making when it comes to things like this. For instance, it is only baseball but my brother already told his ex gf%26#039;s husband that HE is the only one that is going to coach his son%26#039;s baseball because he is his father. Any type of sports his son is involved in my brother wants to be apart. If they respected you at all they would respect the fact and leave your children%26#039;s hair alone. If they feel that it is that hard to deal with then maybe they should come to you and ask for some tips. Chemicals on a child%26#039;s head is not something to mess with. Like what happened it can be very dangerous when you do not know what you do. Chemical burns are not something to play with. I do not know exactly what you can do to make sure this doesn%26#039;t happen again, good luck.Help?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?he def.should have asked u first and i would have never let her touch a single strand of hair on my little girls heads she is a horribly person and if your ex-hubby dumped u for something like that you deserve way better cuz u sound like a nice good caring person i would take him to court and look for everything to pin on him child abuse insufficient living conditions everything and you should be able to win most of it just bring good evidence like the voice recordingHelp?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?well i really don%26#039;t know about the law and everything but i think that u should do wtever it takes to have full custody of ur 2 girls am really sure that u%26#039;ll win and gd luck with everythingHelp?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?if i were you i would ask for custody for yourself and thr dad meaning ure ex will have to meet them in you%26#039;re house.Help?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?I am sorry Mistery I couldn%26#039;t read the whole thing either.

I don%26#039;t think you are being overdramatic.Help?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?first i want to say that i am sorry that your daughters have been put through all of this.i am also sorry that you have to be put through this also.i hope that CPS will be on your side when you go to court about this.i feel that your ex and his fiancee should have discuss the taking care of your children hair with you.it sounds like the fiancee didn%26#039;t know what she was doing.it also sounds like your ex and the fiancee don%26#039;t have their best interest in your children.the fiancee and the ex do need to take parenting classes and have supervised visitation.

i hope your daughters and you will heal from this experience.you need to sit down and talk to them and pray they will understand this shouldn%26#039;t have happen.i wouldn%26#039;t turn them against their father or his fiancee,but try to make it know it will not happen again.good luck to you and GOD BLESS.Help?! My ex%26#039;s fiancee cut off and ruined my children%26#039;s hair?First of all I read your entire question and there is so much that I would like to comment on but I am going to summarize it as best as I can. You are doing exactly what a mother is supposed to do. Your ex should have consulted you about the situation. If they don%26#039;t know how to properly do their hair and don%26#039;t want to take the time to learn then they should just leave it alone or find a good beautician that you approve of as well that specializes in little children%26#039;s hair and can do it. It is not that expensive to get their hair done. There is never an excuse to not take care of your children. I think his fiancee got frustrated and took the easy way out and did not care what she did. She figured that since she is with your ex and he said okay then that meant she could do whatever she wanted to them. WRONG! Ignore his fiancee and family. Save the voice messages, emails, and whatever they send. Keep the ER report and anything else that the doctor gave you for your records to bring to court. Fight for your kids and make sure they are given plenty of love and comfort in this situation. Let them know that beauty is only skin deep and they are still precious. The fact that there have been other incidents, including the situation with the diapers which is absolutely disgusting, shows that they are putting whatever animosity they have above loving and nurturing these children. I think there is a good possibility that he may wind up getting supervised visitation unless it can be proven that he and his fiancee will or have caused intentional harm to your children. Also make sure that you get a good lawyer that is experienced in child support and custody cases. Everything that you say and do must be in the best interest of your children. You are really going to have to be strong for them. I hope I helped and sorry to write such a long answer. Good luck to you and your children.