please help me my mom is very controling im seriously about to go crazy. i want to move in with my dad but she say hes unfit to have custody of me but doesnt the kid have a choice? i live in indiana and im 13How can i change custody?Remember the old saying, 'the grass is always greener on the other side?' But, I bet you haven't heard this other part of it, 'but, it's usually artificial turf.'
Yes, when a child turns 13 or 14 depending on the state he/she can decide where they want to live. Just talk it over with your dad first to see where he's coming from. Then talk with your mom. Of course you want to do things your way but there's a reason why your mom is controlling. It is her job to control you. It's her decision how you are to be raised and as long as you are under the age of 18 she is accountable for you. If you think your dad won't be that way I believe you're in for a rude awakening.
Well, what ever your parents agree on then I hope the best for you.
God Bless.How can i change custody? It may be wise to try some family counseling with both parents, allowing the counselor to know how you are feeling to resolve this issues of your mother being controlling as you see itHow can i change custody?You need to speak with your dad and see if he is willing to take the necessary law abiding steps it takes to have custody of you. How can i change custody?You can ask for a court appointed attorney and have them file a petition for change of custody on your behalf. It is rough, but it can be done. Good luck!How can i change custody?Unfortunately in most states children under a certain age do not have legal rights to change custody. If your parents are not in agreement with the primary custodial parent, then the decision is left to a judge in family court. Most Judges may consider a child's decision at age 12, but it is always not honored.
First, talk with your dad. Ask him important questions like:
1. Are you willing to take on a full time responsibility and being my primary supportive custodial parent?
2. What school will I be going to, if I live with you?
3. What are some of the rules of your home (if you don't already know them)?
Then, ask yourself these questions:
1. Who do I think will would be best to ultimately care for me?
2. Who do I think will be best to nurture, guide and protect me when needed? And could possibly do it to my understanding.
3. Who will provide for me for my life's requirements? Clothes, food, necessities?
4. Who would raise me in a loving and caring environment?
5. Who would make certain that I follow my education path and stay in school?
6. What parent is not involved in drugs, alcohol or is additicted to any negative source that could affect my future? This is the parent you do not want to live with.
Ask him some of the questions that seem to bother you about your mom. Like would you be controlling me too?
Most children call it control...us parents call it responsibility. Mom is probably looking out for your best interest...and I am almost certain that if you have a loving, caring, mature father...he will to!
