My ex was abusive to me and my daughter, and a drug user and a year and a half ago I was forced to move out with my daughter when my ex was nowhere to be found and we had an eviction notice on the door.
I have not heard a thing from him since and have not seen a cent in child support.
I don't want anything from him I don't want his money, I don't think he would have much to offer anyway. I would like to have him relinquish his rights and stay away from me and my daughter.
I was angry with him, but now a year and a half later I feel sad for him because he made the biggest mistake by turning his back on his daughter, she is the most precious thing ever and the time he did spend with her he was high and abusive.
I would like to change my daughters last name to mine and take his rights away.
what do i need to do to get this done? %26amp; how good are my chances at winning this custody %26amp; name change suit?
thank you for any help!Child custody question?In the states that I know about (western states), your ex has no legal rights in regard to your daughter because he has legally %26quot;abandoned%26quot; her. This occurs when a parent has not paid child support or visited the child in a certain number of months. I'm not an attorney, and of course you will need to consult someone to find out the details of laws in your state.
However, you shouldn't have to worry too much. When you file, your ex will have to be legally served with notice of your intent to change your daughter's name %26amp; terminate his rights. He will probably not object but, if he does, he will not have any parental rights unless he pays up on child support, adheres to a visitation %26amp; support schedule, proves he's clean %26amp; sober, and so on. What do you think the chances are of all that happening?
I'm not going to say anything about every child needing 2 parents, either. No child needs the chaos of a parent who is abusive and addicted to drugs. Good for you for being such a strong, protective mama. Good luck to you and your daughter. You are the one who will have the joy and love of her for all the years to come.Child custody question?You need to speak with a lawyer. Call a local women's shelter and see if they can point you in the right direction.
Good luck!Child custody question?my son's father didn't help him my father didn't help me.sorry to hear that your daughter's father is absent and was a putz when he was around but I'm thinking that he may have become one of the missing dead victims of this world--maybe even sadderChild custody question?You have to have him relinguish all rights to her in writing--He has to terminate his rights. You'll have to get a lawyer for this one. They'll try to contact him and place ads in the newspaper notifying him. He can either not answer, or be the biggest prick in the world. Hopefully, you be able to say %26quot;whereabouts unknown%26quot; and he won't contest it. Your odds are great if you can't locate him.Child custody question?It's going to depend on the state in which you live. Most states have laws regarding abandonment. In some states, if the absent parent has not had or attempted any contact in 6 months, then the parent that that has the child can terminate the absent parents rights. They require you to prove that you can not locate the other parent and my have you post an ad in the paper for 30 days stating your intent. If the parent fails to respond during that time, then your request for termination is granted. After you have papers showing that you are the sole parent of that child, you can go and have his name taken off the birth certificate or just change the last name. Hope this helps.Child custody question?You'll need a lawyer and probably be legally required to run an announcement in a few newspapers if he's not able to be contacted for termination of his parental rights. I don't know if I'd open that can of worms, but good luck.Child custody question?Check with your local women's center or look in the phone book for Legal Aid,and get yourself a lawyer.Unless and until you get a court decree declaring sole custody to you,this guy can waltz back in any time and make yours and your daughters lives miserable.
severing parental rights is,in family courts view,an extreme action,and is hard to do in most cases.Some things to keep in mind:Do NOT make things up or exaggerate.Be ready to document allegations(A lawyer can guide you on this).When dealing with ex-husband,ex-husbands lawyer or any representative of the court,try to maintain a calm reasonable demeanor-let your ex make a jerk of himself-just makes you look better.
Remember,in the courts view,your focus should be on the child's welfare first,and by extension yours.Child custody question?In many states if a parent does not provide any support to the minor child for a set period of time, the court can terminate parental rights. Here in Kansas it is 2 years. I'm guessing that you receive some sort of public assistance. The case worker can steer you in the right direction.
