I have a list of things to ask for (i am the father). I need to add things i might not have thought of. I really want full custody but i know how hard it would be to do with the mother present. What can I ask for to get the most time with him? (we live 3 hours apart) Any advice would be appreciated.Going to mediation on thursday for child custody and hopefully change support?In order to get full custody, you need to be able to show cause why the mother should not have custody at all. What types of things are you asking for besides custody? Modification of the support order - that is usually based on the income of both parents, daycare and healthcare expenses.
You are not screwed simply because you are the father, but you do need to have facts on your side.
Where does the child reside now? If he is with his mother, I doubt the court will change that just based on the fact you now live 3 hours apart. Unfortunately - you don't really give enough facts. Who moved? or have the 2 of you always lived 3 hours apart. There are so many variables to consider.
*If she moved, and did not get proper authority from the court - that can be in your favor. Neither parent can move without giveing proper notification to the court. You need to ask for a reasonable meeting place somewhere between where the 2 of you live. If you want increased parenting time - ask for that. Since your son is 3, school is not an issue yet. He could go back and forth every other week, or every few weeks. If I were you - I would just make that list of everything you want. The mediator will know what is truly feasable %26amp; what is not. Good luck!Going to mediation on thursday for child custody and hopefully change support?you're screwed. You have a penis!Going to mediation on thursday for child custody and hopefully change support?You should really be thinking about what is best for your child. Does your child want to spend much less time with their mother? Is there a reason for that? Otherwise I would make sure that your child is getting what they need out of the situation.Going to mediation on thursday for child custody and hopefully change support?In order to obtain full custody you are going to have to prove that the kids are in a better situation with you over her. But if she can provide a good living situation, than I am sorry for you (most favor the mothers in these cases), but don't give up without a fight. You have every right to be in your children's lives. Wish there were more guys out there like you who want to be part of their kids lives. You children should feel blessed. Going to mediation on thursday for child custody and hopefully change support?ask to pick him up on certain school days and drop him off at a certain time if u can do that and if you get it make sure all of his homeowrk is done b4 you send him home. as far as for the total custody thing, you had better have a good reason why mom isnt the best person for your child to be with. good luck...Going to mediation on thursday for child custody and hopefully change support?First off, if she gets custody, make sure there is a clause on what happens to the child in the event of the death of the mother. Never assume you get the child. She could will it to anyone and than you are spending thousands to get your child.
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