I have a list of things to ask for (i am the father). I need to add things i might not have thought of. I really want full custody but i know how hard it would be to do with the mother present. What can I ask for to get the most time with him? (we live 3 hours apart) Any advice would be appreciated.Going to mediation on thursday for child custody and hopefully change support?In order to get full custody, you need to be able to show cause why the mother should not have custody at all. What types of things are you asking for besides custody? Modification of the support order - that is usually based on the income of both parents, daycare and healthcare expenses.
You are not screwed simply because you are the father, but you do need to have facts on your side.
Where does the child reside now? If he is with his mother, I doubt the court will change that just based on the fact you now live 3 hours apart. Unfortunately - you don't really give enough facts. Who moved? or have the 2 of you always lived 3 hours apart. There are so many variables to consider.
*If she moved, and did not get proper authority from the court - that can be in your favor. Neither parent can move without giveing proper notification to the court. You need to ask for a reasonable meeting place somewhere between where the 2 of you live. If you want increased parenting time - ask for that. Since your son is 3, school is not an issue yet. He could go back and forth every other week, or every few weeks. If I were you - I would just make that list of everything you want. The mediator will know what is truly feasable %26amp; what is not. Good luck!Going to mediation on thursday for child custody and hopefully change support?you're screwed. You have a penis!Going to mediation on thursday for child custody and hopefully change support?You should really be thinking about what is best for your child. Does your child want to spend much less time with their mother? Is there a reason for that? Otherwise I would make sure that your child is getting what they need out of the situation.Going to mediation on thursday for child custody and hopefully change support?In order to obtain full custody you are going to have to prove that the kids are in a better situation with you over her. But if she can provide a good living situation, than I am sorry for you (most favor the mothers in these cases), but don't give up without a fight. You have every right to be in your children's lives. Wish there were more guys out there like you who want to be part of their kids lives. You children should feel blessed. Going to mediation on thursday for child custody and hopefully change support?ask to pick him up on certain school days and drop him off at a certain time if u can do that and if you get it make sure all of his homeowrk is done b4 you send him home. as far as for the total custody thing, you had better have a good reason why mom isnt the best person for your child to be with. good luck...Going to mediation on thursday for child custody and hopefully change support?First off, if she gets custody, make sure there is a clause on what happens to the child in the event of the death of the mother. Never assume you get the child. She could will it to anyone and than you are spending thousands to get your child.
If you want to learn what you need to do go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. There's an educational manual in the file section that can teach you what you need to know. The organization it came from is defunct due to attorneys that tried to take it over and make money from it.
Take the time to learn what you can and should do.
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Dad
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
How can a minor child in minnesota petition the court regarding his custody?
My 14 year old grandson is involved in a dispute with his father regarding the fact that he was in shared custody and would like to change it to full custody of his mother. Is it possible, probable for him to be able to do so.How can a minor child in minnesota petition the court regarding his custody?No. His mother could petition for full custody, and then the judge may agree to allow the son to choose. But alone, the son may not petition the court.
Visitation of a child when a parent is on probation?
My former spouse has been convicted of Contributing to the deprivation of a Minor. The minor is my daughter. As a condition of her probation, she is not allowed to have ANY unsupervised contact with minors. Does anyone know how this would apply to visitation of our daughter? Should I let her see her under my supervision at my home or not at all. She is in a heavily medicated state most of the time due to alleged fybromyalgia. I am awaiting the courts to sign off on my custody change in July and I do not know if I have to abide by any set visitation schedule. Any answers would be helpful.Visitation of a child when a parent is on probation?This is a question of legality as well as child welfare. Get good legal advice from your attorney, it is highly possible that any visitation would have to be under the observation of a trained child welfare worker. Get you daughter into counseling if you have not and get input from the counselor on what would be best for you daughter in terms of visitation or no contact and press for those terms. DO NOT be passive and wait for the courts to set the terms be proactive and use %26quot;experts%26quot; to help shape the process. Don't say you can't afford it, you can't afford not to.Visitation of a child when a parent is on probation?File for emergency modification of visitation and request that visitation be changed to supervised until the duration of probation is up, at which point the court can reconsider. Court will very likely order supervised visitation over no visitation as this is, after all, the child's mother, and the court will not consider it in the best interest of the child to not see mom at all unless she is declared unfit, which will likely not happen since what you described makes her just a person of ill health and poor judgement, not wholly unfit.
Until then, if she sees child without the supervised visitation, she will be in violation and that is on her. She would be wise not to exercise her visitation, but file the emergency modification anyways; you don't want to be found in contempt for denying visitation. The court will likely order you or a third party to supervise visitation.Visitation of a child when a parent is on probation?I would say that you need to supervise the visits. Most states allow you to violate the court order if abuse of a child has happened so you will be ok when it comes time to go to court and make it official. So you shouldn't be afraid of being in contempt.
Good luck!
Until then, if she sees child without the supervised visitation, she will be in violation and that is on her. She would be wise not to exercise her visitation, but file the emergency modification anyways; you don't want to be found in contempt for denying visitation. The court will likely order you or a third party to supervise visitation.Visitation of a child when a parent is on probation?I would say that you need to supervise the visits. Most states allow you to violate the court order if abuse of a child has happened so you will be ok when it comes time to go to court and make it official. So you shouldn't be afraid of being in contempt.
Good luck!
Child Custody/Name Changing HELP!?
I have two sons. Both from different fathers. The first I was married to and when my son was born he was put on the birth certificate after he signed paternity. My son is now 8 yrs old and does not want his fathers last name. He wants mine. I agree to this because his father is not consistent in his life and really isnt much of a father figure anyway. plus my son feels left out cuz the ppl we live with all have my last name. The Second child i was not married and I chose to put his fathers last name on the birth certificate. His paternity has already been established. But he too is a dead beat and if im gona change one of my son's last name to my last name i might as well change both. But How can i go about this and how much will it cost. I know the fathers will put up a big fight since it seems their last names are their pride yet being a true responsible father means nothing. I also want sole custody not just joint with physical custody that i have now. Is it best to do it all together or do it in peices? such as get one childs last name changed. Then go to get full custody or do i go get full custody for one child first then change the last name? Is there a way i can do both children together even though they have different fathers?
I need help. Im goin crazy. I live in Wisconsin. I have already looked into some family law lawyers but have not had time to call during business hours.Child Custody/Name Changing HELP!?If the fathers protest you may not be able to change the names. If they pay support then you should leave the names there. If not that is not reason to not have name change. This may be in the best interest of the child and that would be the way to go. Usually having a father in their life is greater than not having one at all. Support is one issue that is stronger for Dad's, but it is not definitive. Your getting sole custody is not a done deal. If fathers want to be part of this then you may be out of luck in the sole custody especially to cut out the dads.
If fathers will agree, it is much simpler. I would file for the custody first and then deal with the name change later or it could be done at one time. If boys were 12, it would be easier for you.
Good luck.Child Custody/Name Changing HELP!?I understand about deadbeat dad's I really do, but you have no right to get sole custody of the children. The only way you would ever even be considered the sole custodian is if you can prove that one of the dad's repeatedly beat the children, forced them to do drugs and over all is a danger to them physically, , and even then you may have a hard time getting a judge to terminate the other persons parental rights. Being absent does not constitute being a danger.
I know in your mind it seems that you are the only one there for them and providing for them so they should be 100% yours, but this is a legal matter that is delicate and rare. If you were to get sole custody that would absolve the men from ever having to pay child support, which is to the detriment of the child so the state would not allow this. But also it would be stripping the legal connection the children have with their dads. If the dad won the lottery and died your children would have no rights to that money because they would no longer be a legitimate child. There are many men currently paying child support for children that aren't even biologically theirs because the child was concieved during marriage and the state will not step in because they will NOT make a bastard out of your children, and they will not permit you to.
The children were given a name at birth and that is their name. The only reason a court would consider changing this is if there was an adoption by a different male or a misspelling on the original birth certificate.
In short, you have no shot of accomplishing either of these things because you have no legal right to.
I need help. Im goin crazy. I live in Wisconsin. I have already looked into some family law lawyers but have not had time to call during business hours.Child Custody/Name Changing HELP!?If the fathers protest you may not be able to change the names. If they pay support then you should leave the names there. If not that is not reason to not have name change. This may be in the best interest of the child and that would be the way to go. Usually having a father in their life is greater than not having one at all. Support is one issue that is stronger for Dad's, but it is not definitive. Your getting sole custody is not a done deal. If fathers want to be part of this then you may be out of luck in the sole custody especially to cut out the dads.
If fathers will agree, it is much simpler. I would file for the custody first and then deal with the name change later or it could be done at one time. If boys were 12, it would be easier for you.
Good luck.Child Custody/Name Changing HELP!?I understand about deadbeat dad's I really do, but you have no right to get sole custody of the children. The only way you would ever even be considered the sole custodian is if you can prove that one of the dad's repeatedly beat the children, forced them to do drugs and over all is a danger to them physically, , and even then you may have a hard time getting a judge to terminate the other persons parental rights. Being absent does not constitute being a danger.
I know in your mind it seems that you are the only one there for them and providing for them so they should be 100% yours, but this is a legal matter that is delicate and rare. If you were to get sole custody that would absolve the men from ever having to pay child support, which is to the detriment of the child so the state would not allow this. But also it would be stripping the legal connection the children have with their dads. If the dad won the lottery and died your children would have no rights to that money because they would no longer be a legitimate child. There are many men currently paying child support for children that aren't even biologically theirs because the child was concieved during marriage and the state will not step in because they will NOT make a bastard out of your children, and they will not permit you to.
The children were given a name at birth and that is their name. The only reason a court would consider changing this is if there was an adoption by a different male or a misspelling on the original birth certificate.
In short, you have no shot of accomplishing either of these things because you have no legal right to.
What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?
This is a sad situation that has gone on for years and has progressed to the point that psychiatrists have been called in. Unfortunately, it is the child who has been pulled out of school by her mother and forced into treatment when it is the mother who has the biggest problems as a well-known pathological liar who refuses to admit she has any of her own issues.
So when the mother blatantly lies to the 14 year old and tries to manipulate her in a way that reminds one of %26quot;Mommy Dearest%26quot;, the 14 year old reacts because she knows what is coming -- a complete invalidation of her point and some kind of punishment for something she doesn't deserve, just because she objected to Mommy's lies.
So when the 14 year old reacts, the mother throws up a wall and the two go after it like two scorpions in a bottle. This is not healthy. There should be a better way to resolve conflict.
But for the purposes of this question, assume you cannot do anything about the mother who is absolutely intractable and will not change her ways to save the world. The only mature, responsible and honest one here is the 14 year old (a straight-A student with no record of bad behavior from any past teachers). How can the 14-year old REACT to or DEAL with her mother when she knows she is being lied to an manipulated or punished unfairly? Her reaction to date -- i.e. getting excited and upset -- is not working. She needs to find a more STRATEGIC way to overcome this conflict and hopefully get it resolved.
For the time being, assume a custody change is not immediately possible. The question is how to empower the 14 year old with a better conflict resolution technique when she is crossed and attacked unfairly in the moment.What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?This is unfortunately not an uncommon situation.
The trouble is often exasperated by agencies set-up to help children who believe everything the adult / parent says! (You'd think they would know better!)
But to answer your question - I agree with the previous answer - find a foster home, but that might also have a negative effect on the 14 year old EG being separated from siblings etc., being forced to move from friends, school...
Realistically, there's not much a teenager can do except remain stoically totally assured of their righteousness / believing their view/s are totally correct / justified... and developing a thick outer skin, like a ducks, so they can laugh off every attempt to undermine them.
That doesn't mean being sucked in, rude, flippant, lazy, complacent, lying i.e. playing the same game...
That means being watchful, resourceful, honest, straight, not wasting words or effort on lost causes, keeping a diary in a very secret location which can be shown to the authorities if / when needed, getting her own solicitor to ease liasons, and having a professional to befriend her such as a youth advisor.What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?the 14yr old should move away from her mother into a foster home if its that badWhat would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?There is a book you should get called %26quot;Secrets of Power Conversation%26quot; it has s few sections that go over some techniques you can use when dealing with difficult individuals and will help you phrase your words in such a way that will get the desired results you want.What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?wow...sounds like a day in the life me as a teenager. I see this happening to my younger brother now. I've given him a few pointers on how to avoid certain situations. Whether or not it can help in this situation is for you to see. When I would have a %26quot;conflict%26quot; with my father and it was'nt something he would want to hear I would just sugar coat anything he would suggest so I could get out of the situation. If he told me the sky was yellow and we all know it is what it is I would just agree for the sake of sanity. I have been accused of bieng out of line and threatened to have to police come %26quot;pick me up%26quot;, been, verbally, mentally and physically abused all because I actually challanged back with something he couldnt deal with. I suffered tremendously over this man....and Learned a great deal too. It's helped my little brother cope with living with this man now.
What I would suggest to this girl is to not argue back, not challange the mother and as much as it bothers her, just keep it cool. Has CPS not been called on the mother? Why hasnt the mother been evaulated for mental instability? Sounds like somethings greatly amiss in her head. I hope this girl finds a level ground. It's hard when you think or actually know that your parent is against you when they are suppose to be behind you.
I only have one more suggestion that worked for me....
Evenutal Emancipation when I was 16. Although depending on the laws of the states it could differ but I was able to in 1996.
Good luck on this!What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?However the whatevers of it came to be, the good news is that the pros have been called in. I would encourage her to keep taking small steps down that corridor.
Resist the temptation to set yourself up as the knight in shining armor with a bag full of instant, microwave solutions. This is the journey of a lifetime. Just be there for her. Humbly. Supportively. Keep telling her she can get through this. Let it take a lifetime...What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?She should start by trying to reduce her mother convictions start by “really? i don’t rember that but if you say it happened im sure it did”how to flirt with your boyfriend ram interrogate
So when the mother blatantly lies to the 14 year old and tries to manipulate her in a way that reminds one of %26quot;Mommy Dearest%26quot;, the 14 year old reacts because she knows what is coming -- a complete invalidation of her point and some kind of punishment for something she doesn't deserve, just because she objected to Mommy's lies.
So when the 14 year old reacts, the mother throws up a wall and the two go after it like two scorpions in a bottle. This is not healthy. There should be a better way to resolve conflict.
But for the purposes of this question, assume you cannot do anything about the mother who is absolutely intractable and will not change her ways to save the world. The only mature, responsible and honest one here is the 14 year old (a straight-A student with no record of bad behavior from any past teachers). How can the 14-year old REACT to or DEAL with her mother when she knows she is being lied to an manipulated or punished unfairly? Her reaction to date -- i.e. getting excited and upset -- is not working. She needs to find a more STRATEGIC way to overcome this conflict and hopefully get it resolved.
For the time being, assume a custody change is not immediately possible. The question is how to empower the 14 year old with a better conflict resolution technique when she is crossed and attacked unfairly in the moment.What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?This is unfortunately not an uncommon situation.
The trouble is often exasperated by agencies set-up to help children who believe everything the adult / parent says! (You'd think they would know better!)
But to answer your question - I agree with the previous answer - find a foster home, but that might also have a negative effect on the 14 year old EG being separated from siblings etc., being forced to move from friends, school...
Realistically, there's not much a teenager can do except remain stoically totally assured of their righteousness / believing their view/s are totally correct / justified... and developing a thick outer skin, like a ducks, so they can laugh off every attempt to undermine them.
That doesn't mean being sucked in, rude, flippant, lazy, complacent, lying i.e. playing the same game...
That means being watchful, resourceful, honest, straight, not wasting words or effort on lost causes, keeping a diary in a very secret location which can be shown to the authorities if / when needed, getting her own solicitor to ease liasons, and having a professional to befriend her such as a youth advisor.What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?the 14yr old should move away from her mother into a foster home if its that badWhat would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?There is a book you should get called %26quot;Secrets of Power Conversation%26quot; it has s few sections that go over some techniques you can use when dealing with difficult individuals and will help you phrase your words in such a way that will get the desired results you want.What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?wow...sounds like a day in the life me as a teenager. I see this happening to my younger brother now. I've given him a few pointers on how to avoid certain situations. Whether or not it can help in this situation is for you to see. When I would have a %26quot;conflict%26quot; with my father and it was'nt something he would want to hear I would just sugar coat anything he would suggest so I could get out of the situation. If he told me the sky was yellow and we all know it is what it is I would just agree for the sake of sanity. I have been accused of bieng out of line and threatened to have to police come %26quot;pick me up%26quot;, been, verbally, mentally and physically abused all because I actually challanged back with something he couldnt deal with. I suffered tremendously over this man....and Learned a great deal too. It's helped my little brother cope with living with this man now.
What I would suggest to this girl is to not argue back, not challange the mother and as much as it bothers her, just keep it cool. Has CPS not been called on the mother? Why hasnt the mother been evaulated for mental instability? Sounds like somethings greatly amiss in her head. I hope this girl finds a level ground. It's hard when you think or actually know that your parent is against you when they are suppose to be behind you.
I only have one more suggestion that worked for me....
Evenutal Emancipation when I was 16. Although depending on the laws of the states it could differ but I was able to in 1996.
Good luck on this!What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?However the whatevers of it came to be, the good news is that the pros have been called in. I would encourage her to keep taking small steps down that corridor.
Resist the temptation to set yourself up as the knight in shining armor with a bag full of instant, microwave solutions. This is the journey of a lifetime. Just be there for her. Humbly. Supportively. Keep telling her she can get through this. Let it take a lifetime...What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?She should start by trying to reduce her mother convictions start by “really? i don’t rember that but if you say it happened im sure it did”
Friday, September 23, 2011
What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?
This is a sad situation that has gone on for years and has progressed to the point that psychiatrists have been called in. Unfortunately, it is the child who has been pulled out of school by her mother and forced into treatment when it is the mother who has the biggest problems as a well-known pathological liar who refuses to admit she has any of her own issues.
So when the mother blatantly lies to the 14 year old and tries to manipulate her in a way that reminds one of %26quot;Mommy Dearest%26quot;, the 14 year old reacts because she knows what is coming -- a complete invalidation of her point and some kind of punishment for something she doesn't deserve, just because she objected to Mommy's lies.
So when the 14 year old reacts, the mother throws up a wall and the two go after it like two scorpions in a bottle. This is not healthy. There should be a better way to resolve conflict.
But for the purposes of this question, assume you cannot do anything about the mother who is absolutely intractable and will not change her ways to save the world. The only mature, responsible and honest one here is the 14 year old (a straight-A student with no record of bad behavior from any past teachers). How can the 14-year old REACT to or DEAL with her mother when she knows she is being lied to an manipulated or punished unfairly? Her reaction to date -- i.e. getting excited and upset -- is not working. She needs to find a more STRATEGIC way to overcome this conflict and hopefully get it resolved.
For the time being, assume a custody change is not immediately possible. The question is how to empower the 14 year old with a better conflict resolution technique when she is crossed and attacked unfairly in the moment.What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?This is unfortunately not an uncommon situation.
The trouble is often exasperated by agencies set-up to help children who believe everything the adult / parent says! (You'd think they would know better!)
But to answer your question - I agree with the previous answer - find a foster home, but that might also have a negative effect on the 14 year old EG being separated from siblings etc., being forced to move from friends, school...
Realistically, there's not much a teenager can do except remain stoically totally assured of their righteousness / believing their view/s are totally correct / justified... and developing a thick outer skin, like a ducks, so they can laugh off every attempt to undermine them.
That doesn't mean being sucked in, rude, flippant, lazy, complacent, lying i.e. playing the same game...
That means being watchful, resourceful, honest, straight, not wasting words or effort on lost causes, keeping a diary in a very secret location which can be shown to the authorities if / when needed, getting her own solicitor to ease liasons, and having a professional to befriend her such as a youth advisor.What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?the 14yr old should move away from her mother into a foster home if its that badWhat would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?There is a book you should get called %26quot;Secrets of Power Conversation%26quot; it has s few sections that go over some techniques you can use when dealing with difficult individuals and will help you phrase your words in such a way that will get the desired results you want.What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?wow...sounds like a day in the life me as a teenager. I see this happening to my younger brother now. I've given him a few pointers on how to avoid certain situations. Whether or not it can help in this situation is for you to see. When I would have a %26quot;conflict%26quot; with my father and it was'nt something he would want to hear I would just sugar coat anything he would suggest so I could get out of the situation. If he told me the sky was yellow and we all know it is what it is I would just agree for the sake of sanity. I have been accused of bieng out of line and threatened to have to police come %26quot;pick me up%26quot;, been, verbally, mentally and physically abused all because I actually challanged back with something he couldnt deal with. I suffered tremendously over this man....and Learned a great deal too. It's helped my little brother cope with living with this man now.
What I would suggest to this girl is to not argue back, not challange the mother and as much as it bothers her, just keep it cool. Has CPS not been called on the mother? Why hasnt the mother been evaulated for mental instability? Sounds like somethings greatly amiss in her head. I hope this girl finds a level ground. It's hard when you think or actually know that your parent is against you when they are suppose to be behind you.
I only have one more suggestion that worked for me....
Evenutal Emancipation when I was 16. Although depending on the laws of the states it could differ but I was able to in 1996.
Good luck on this!What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?However the whatevers of it came to be, the good news is that the pros have been called in. I would encourage her to keep taking small steps down that corridor.
Resist the temptation to set yourself up as the knight in shining armor with a bag full of instant, microwave solutions. This is the journey of a lifetime. Just be there for her. Humbly. Supportively. Keep telling her she can get through this. Let it take a lifetime...What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?She should start by trying to reduce her mother convictions start by “really? i don’t rember that but if you say it happened im sure it did”how to flirt with your boyfriend ram interrogate
So when the mother blatantly lies to the 14 year old and tries to manipulate her in a way that reminds one of %26quot;Mommy Dearest%26quot;, the 14 year old reacts because she knows what is coming -- a complete invalidation of her point and some kind of punishment for something she doesn't deserve, just because she objected to Mommy's lies.
So when the 14 year old reacts, the mother throws up a wall and the two go after it like two scorpions in a bottle. This is not healthy. There should be a better way to resolve conflict.
But for the purposes of this question, assume you cannot do anything about the mother who is absolutely intractable and will not change her ways to save the world. The only mature, responsible and honest one here is the 14 year old (a straight-A student with no record of bad behavior from any past teachers). How can the 14-year old REACT to or DEAL with her mother when she knows she is being lied to an manipulated or punished unfairly? Her reaction to date -- i.e. getting excited and upset -- is not working. She needs to find a more STRATEGIC way to overcome this conflict and hopefully get it resolved.
For the time being, assume a custody change is not immediately possible. The question is how to empower the 14 year old with a better conflict resolution technique when she is crossed and attacked unfairly in the moment.What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?This is unfortunately not an uncommon situation.
The trouble is often exasperated by agencies set-up to help children who believe everything the adult / parent says! (You'd think they would know better!)
But to answer your question - I agree with the previous answer - find a foster home, but that might also have a negative effect on the 14 year old EG being separated from siblings etc., being forced to move from friends, school...
Realistically, there's not much a teenager can do except remain stoically totally assured of their righteousness / believing their view/s are totally correct / justified... and developing a thick outer skin, like a ducks, so they can laugh off every attempt to undermine them.
That doesn't mean being sucked in, rude, flippant, lazy, complacent, lying i.e. playing the same game...
That means being watchful, resourceful, honest, straight, not wasting words or effort on lost causes, keeping a diary in a very secret location which can be shown to the authorities if / when needed, getting her own solicitor to ease liasons, and having a professional to befriend her such as a youth advisor.What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?the 14yr old should move away from her mother into a foster home if its that badWhat would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?There is a book you should get called %26quot;Secrets of Power Conversation%26quot; it has s few sections that go over some techniques you can use when dealing with difficult individuals and will help you phrase your words in such a way that will get the desired results you want.What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?wow...sounds like a day in the life me as a teenager. I see this happening to my younger brother now. I've given him a few pointers on how to avoid certain situations. Whether or not it can help in this situation is for you to see. When I would have a %26quot;conflict%26quot; with my father and it was'nt something he would want to hear I would just sugar coat anything he would suggest so I could get out of the situation. If he told me the sky was yellow and we all know it is what it is I would just agree for the sake of sanity. I have been accused of bieng out of line and threatened to have to police come %26quot;pick me up%26quot;, been, verbally, mentally and physically abused all because I actually challanged back with something he couldnt deal with. I suffered tremendously over this man....and Learned a great deal too. It's helped my little brother cope with living with this man now.
What I would suggest to this girl is to not argue back, not challange the mother and as much as it bothers her, just keep it cool. Has CPS not been called on the mother? Why hasnt the mother been evaulated for mental instability? Sounds like somethings greatly amiss in her head. I hope this girl finds a level ground. It's hard when you think or actually know that your parent is against you when they are suppose to be behind you.
I only have one more suggestion that worked for me....
Evenutal Emancipation when I was 16. Although depending on the laws of the states it could differ but I was able to in 1996.
Good luck on this!What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?However the whatevers of it came to be, the good news is that the pros have been called in. I would encourage her to keep taking small steps down that corridor.
Resist the temptation to set yourself up as the knight in shining armor with a bag full of instant, microwave solutions. This is the journey of a lifetime. Just be there for her. Humbly. Supportively. Keep telling her she can get through this. Let it take a lifetime...What would be the best response a 14 year old female can give when their mother blatantly lies to her?She should start by trying to reduce her mother convictions start by “really? i don’t rember that but if you say it happened im sure it did”
Please help me? Please just give me some word of advice or encouragement?
my parents are in the middle of a divorce..
my dad is so negative and unsupportive, but i love him. my mom... yuck. she's an alcoholic chain-smoker, that ignores me all the time. i'm so sick of her. i hate her. i want her out of my life.
she cheated on my dad. he pays her way too much child support that i never see. everything goes towards her. she won't let me move out because that would mean she lost all her %26quot;income%26quot;. she's about to get a %26quot;job%26quot;, so my older sister who has luckily moved out into a nice apartment, with a degree and a nice job, tried to get her to let me move in with her, and offered to take only a fourth of the child support, just to feed me and clothe me. my mom freakeddddddd outtttttt.
can she be forced to give custody to my sister? my dad cant take me in, my sister can provide a stable enviroment for me. i'm sick of getting yelled at by a drunk mother every night.. she calls me selfish, tells me i hurt her feelings so much, i should be ashamed of myself, of everything, i'm worthless.. my sister tells me to ignore it, dont believe any of it. but that doesnt make it hurt any less...
please, i beg anyone, anyone at all, just help me.. can we force the custody change? i am so tired emotionally.. i'm always scared here.. im sick of being told how worthless i am.. im starting to hurt physically because i hurt so much emotionally.
i just want sleep. like a full night of no nightmares, deep sleep. when i get stressed i'm deprived of sleep, and when i do fall asleep nightmares of my mother keep me up.
please help me?Please help me? Please just give me some word of advice or encouragement?I do not know where you are located... and, this could have a great deal to do with the prospects of being able to get free of this situation...
Also.. you do not state your age.... and, this could also be a major factor in the probabilities of you being successfully emancipated from this circumstance....
However, with the support of your sister, and your dad.... and their willingness to come forward with input on the situation that you are living in.... there is every possibility, with the right legal council and some guidance in the particulars of this matter.... that you could be successful in getting free of your mom.....
Talk the situation over with your sister and your dad.... then go to an available %26quot;free%26quot; legal councilling service.... they are situated all over the place and have no fees for listening to people's situations and giving them advice on how to proceed.....
The best of luck to you in dealing with this
and... you will survive this madness, believe me.... and, you will be a lot happier in the near future.... once all of this is behind you
鈽?////Please help me? Please just give me some word of advice or encouragement?A good PI and lawyer can work with you and your dad to get him custody.Please help me? Please just give me some word of advice or encouragement?why don't you call CPS on your mom....and they will release you to your sisterPlease help me? Please just give me some word of advice or encouragement?Talk to a school guidance counselor or your pastor. I'll pray for you. I think you will be able to get out of there. Ask your father to help you if you need an attorney. I don't see why a judge wouldn't let you live with your sister if she is over 21. If she's not 21 yet, you may be better off in a foster home. Please look into Child Protective Services in your area.Please help me? Please just give me some word of advice or encouragement?love it is ok you will be alright .You can go and live with your sister and not worry about anything .Do this tomorrow .call your sister and tell her that either you are moving in with her or moving to a foster home and that you will not take no for an answer either she helps and now or not at all .you need to get away from your mom and likely your dad they seem both messed up .you do not have to live with a drunk ever .tell your mom that your going to school in the morning then go to your sisters tell your dad and tell your school and tell the police yes the police if they don't want to listen you email me and i don't care where you live i will get you help .I lived with a drunk and i know addicts and i know oh so much of whaT you are going through right now .you are not alonePlease help me? Please just give me some word of advice or encouragement?ok sweetie y are u not going with ur Dad. Did u know that if ur Dad wants to keep u and it seems to me if ur mom is this bad he would. To protect u. than u can talk to the judge ans he would let u.
But sweetie if this is u just trying to put ur mom down because u blame her, and think if u move in with ur sis. will get u the money and not to ur mom. just remember u reap what u sew, and gotta tell u what u do to ur parents comes back to u double.So u need to make sure u tell the truth now. and I can tell u I was taught to respect my parents.. and I raised very good kids, but what kind will u raise if u r lyeing , and if u really are going through this crap and ur dad will not let u come with him ,than u can talk to a social worker who will investigate it and place u with ur Dad, Grandparent ,or maybe ur sister after seeing how she lives and all . But if they don't place with family than they can place u in foster care.I am sorry if my answer seems harish, but kids need to realize if they ie on there parents it can be bad , and if ur mom is doing this she like totally needs help.Please help me? Please just give me some word of advice or encouragement?well how old are you? can you get emancipated? have you talked to your dad about the situation? i know that you said you can't live with him but maybe he can help you get the courts to allow you to live with your sister instead.
what i would do is get your phone and record some of the things that your mom is saying to you. save them somewhere on your computer or whatever. then when she tries to deny it you have proof. also write things down like maybe how much did she drink that day, these things will help you get out of there. i'm sorry you have to deal with all of that. i hope it works out for you.
my dad is so negative and unsupportive, but i love him. my mom... yuck. she's an alcoholic chain-smoker, that ignores me all the time. i'm so sick of her. i hate her. i want her out of my life.
she cheated on my dad. he pays her way too much child support that i never see. everything goes towards her. she won't let me move out because that would mean she lost all her %26quot;income%26quot;. she's about to get a %26quot;job%26quot;, so my older sister who has luckily moved out into a nice apartment, with a degree and a nice job, tried to get her to let me move in with her, and offered to take only a fourth of the child support, just to feed me and clothe me. my mom freakeddddddd outtttttt.
can she be forced to give custody to my sister? my dad cant take me in, my sister can provide a stable enviroment for me. i'm sick of getting yelled at by a drunk mother every night.. she calls me selfish, tells me i hurt her feelings so much, i should be ashamed of myself, of everything, i'm worthless.. my sister tells me to ignore it, dont believe any of it. but that doesnt make it hurt any less...
please, i beg anyone, anyone at all, just help me.. can we force the custody change? i am so tired emotionally.. i'm always scared here.. im sick of being told how worthless i am.. im starting to hurt physically because i hurt so much emotionally.
i just want sleep. like a full night of no nightmares, deep sleep. when i get stressed i'm deprived of sleep, and when i do fall asleep nightmares of my mother keep me up.
please help me?Please help me? Please just give me some word of advice or encouragement?I do not know where you are located... and, this could have a great deal to do with the prospects of being able to get free of this situation...
Also.. you do not state your age.... and, this could also be a major factor in the probabilities of you being successfully emancipated from this circumstance....
However, with the support of your sister, and your dad.... and their willingness to come forward with input on the situation that you are living in.... there is every possibility, with the right legal council and some guidance in the particulars of this matter.... that you could be successful in getting free of your mom.....
Talk the situation over with your sister and your dad.... then go to an available %26quot;free%26quot; legal councilling service.... they are situated all over the place and have no fees for listening to people's situations and giving them advice on how to proceed.....
The best of luck to you in dealing with this
and... you will survive this madness, believe me.... and, you will be a lot happier in the near future.... once all of this is behind you
鈽?////Please help me? Please just give me some word of advice or encouragement?A good PI and lawyer can work with you and your dad to get him custody.Please help me? Please just give me some word of advice or encouragement?why don't you call CPS on your mom....and they will release you to your sisterPlease help me? Please just give me some word of advice or encouragement?Talk to a school guidance counselor or your pastor. I'll pray for you. I think you will be able to get out of there. Ask your father to help you if you need an attorney. I don't see why a judge wouldn't let you live with your sister if she is over 21. If she's not 21 yet, you may be better off in a foster home. Please look into Child Protective Services in your area.Please help me? Please just give me some word of advice or encouragement?love it is ok you will be alright .You can go and live with your sister and not worry about anything .Do this tomorrow .call your sister and tell her that either you are moving in with her or moving to a foster home and that you will not take no for an answer either she helps and now or not at all .you need to get away from your mom and likely your dad they seem both messed up .you do not have to live with a drunk ever .tell your mom that your going to school in the morning then go to your sisters tell your dad and tell your school and tell the police yes the police if they don't want to listen you email me and i don't care where you live i will get you help .I lived with a drunk and i know addicts and i know oh so much of whaT you are going through right now .you are not alonePlease help me? Please just give me some word of advice or encouragement?ok sweetie y are u not going with ur Dad. Did u know that if ur Dad wants to keep u and it seems to me if ur mom is this bad he would. To protect u. than u can talk to the judge ans he would let u.
But sweetie if this is u just trying to put ur mom down because u blame her, and think if u move in with ur sis. will get u the money and not to ur mom. just remember u reap what u sew, and gotta tell u what u do to ur parents comes back to u double.So u need to make sure u tell the truth now. and I can tell u I was taught to respect my parents.. and I raised very good kids, but what kind will u raise if u r lyeing , and if u really are going through this crap and ur dad will not let u come with him ,than u can talk to a social worker who will investigate it and place u with ur Dad, Grandparent ,or maybe ur sister after seeing how she lives and all . But if they don't place with family than they can place u in foster care.I am sorry if my answer seems harish, but kids need to realize if they ie on there parents it can be bad , and if ur mom is doing this she like totally needs help.Please help me? Please just give me some word of advice or encouragement?well how old are you? can you get emancipated? have you talked to your dad about the situation? i know that you said you can't live with him but maybe he can help you get the courts to allow you to live with your sister instead.
what i would do is get your phone and record some of the things that your mom is saying to you. save them somewhere on your computer or whatever. then when she tries to deny it you have proof. also write things down like maybe how much did she drink that day, these things will help you get out of there. i'm sorry you have to deal with all of that. i hope it works out for you.
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