He has been living with my ex-husband for the last 5 years and they fight bad! Neither one is happy. My present husband and I are prepared to have him move in with us and change custody. However, my 14 year old step-son is not happy and I think is jealous. (we see my step-sons on weekends) My husband is wary of this change too, thinking that it is going to put a lot of stress and headache on our relationship. I almost lost my husband before over this, but I want my son to be here with me. My son and I have a very good relationship; he isn't dis-respectful or cocky. He just needs to work harder in school. I feel lost and alone during this period, as I feel I am the only one that sees this as a positive change for my son and myself (to finally be his mother full-time) I need advice on how to make the transition smooth for my two step sons, and my husband. My son desperately wants to live here with us and is excited. I don't want him to come into a resentful home by others. HELP!My 15 year old son is moving back to live with me. I need advice on making it a smooth transition.?Show unreserved love and affection and he will love being with you and pine for you when he is away from you. I mean love of any sort you want to offer.My 15 year old son is moving back to live with me. I need advice on making it a smooth transition.?well this is always hard but take it slow and don't force anyone to hang out and the boys will work it out keep an open mind and talk to your hubby about it thats what keeps a marriage going it will all work out in the end have faith and good luckMy 15 year old son is moving back to live with me. I need advice on making it a smooth transition.?You can not let your husband or your step son to show their resentment of the situation. Your husband should have know that when he married you that you had a kid and he would be a part of your lives. He should treat him as family as I am sure you treat your step-son as family.
I think the biggest mess-up is if your family does not make him feel welcomed there. I think then he would start to act out. A lot of kids act out because they don't feel belonging.
Just show him love, and show him he has a great home to live in and everything should be ok. It will be rough, but I am sure if you make him a part of the family everything will be fine.
Another thing you want to steer clear of is trying to be his best friend instead of mom. I know since you have not been his soul guardian, you might want to do this, and maybe might even do it unintentionally. After not living with you for so long, he is making a transition into your house and you will want him to love it there, so just keep boundries set also.
good luck.My 15 year old son is moving back to live with me. I need advice on making it a smooth transition.?First, talk to your husband. He needs to be supportive of you as I assume you have been supportive of him and his kids. Now he needs to step up.
Second, talk about your children and what they like, dislike and such. Try to find some common ground between them that you can share with the kids. For example, maybe the boys both like baseball, you could use that to help bridge the gap.
Be sure to talk to the children involved. Find out what they see as a threat or what they may be concerned about. Let them know that nothing they say is going to make you mad or get them in trouble and stick by that. If your husband's son says he's afraid your son will take his dad's attention away from him, don't get upset. Figure out how to make sure that doesn't happen.
Your son has as much a right to live with you and your husband's kids do. If your husband doesn't see it that way, it may be time to move out until he can see the error of his ways. Whatever you do, don't choose your husband over your son.
Good luck!
