My wife and I have 2 kids each from previous marrages both of us have primary custody and have been married for 7 years with a good and stable home and income. My wifes 13 yr old son wants to live with his father across the country which is remarried with a new son and works alot, he is not a bad guy but was the one the left the marrage and the kids about 9 yrs ago. Our son has a sister that is 10 and dont want to leave us plus the bond of the my 2 kids(boy and girl similiar ages) with them over the years. What is the possiable out come of a change of custody battle with her X and will the fact the he has a sister, step brother and sister and step father that love him. Will a Va court allow him to go with his father? My wife and I love all of our children how can he split up the family by infuencing our son to want to do this? What factors will be a decisive in our situation?Wifes X want custody of our 13 year old son, how can we prevent this?You only get one childhood. In the end you have to worry about all of them, but he has to worry about himself.
AFAIK, most states will take the wishes of a child his age into consideration.
It really doesn't matter who left the relationship or anything like that. You're a bit too emotionally invested in this which is why a judge will make this decision. They will weigh the wants of the child vs the needs of the child and both environments.
If I was your kid and you were blocking me, you would be dramatically damaging your relationship with me and it would probably not be a great example for the other kids and would harm the family dynamic and set some bad examples on respect for the kids. There's more to prevent than just his leaving. If you let him leave positively you are preventing a lot of heartache all around.Wifes X want custody of our 13 year old son, how can we prevent this?Sorry to tell you this but the son being 13 is old enough for the courts to listen to....if he goes into court and says he wants to live with his dad they will let him.....especially when the father is normally a good guy.Wifes X want custody of our 13 year old son, how can we prevent this?Go talk to a lawyer. Only they can tell you the outcome.Wifes X want custody of our 13 year old son, how can we prevent this?All of these questions will be answered by a judge and depend on the laws of your state and the skill of your attorney.Wifes X want custody of our 13 year old son, how can we prevent this?first of all he is 13 what he wants will matter slightly, but your missing key issues here, has the father maintained a regular visitation with his son? If not breathe easy, and no judge in his/her right mind is going to split up the family unit unless there is allegations of abuseWifes X want custody of our 13 year old son, how can we prevent this?at his age it is no longer your decision if you take this to court and he tells the judge he wants to live with his dad and his dad isn't deemed unfit then that is what will happen. For you it may seem like breaking up your family but that is his father and his family as well. And I know it is hard but he does deserve the chance to be with his father. He might like it he might not but you have to do what is in his best interest. There is also the fact that if you don't let him he may resent you... just a few things to think about...
Good Luck!Wifes X want custody of our 13 year old son, how can we prevent this?Although you guys have given him love ,comfort and a safe living .he still deserves to see his father or be with his father.
the more you hold or stop this the13yr old will have a negative outlook at you for doing this. let it go and let him learn from himself which is a better place for him .. no matter what you do if it is good he will come back . if not he will have fond memories . He's at the age of exploring .and i know your intentions are good . but his father 's intentions are good as well.. Good lick and be strong..Wifes X want custody of our 13 year old son, how can we prevent this?If he petitions the court to reverse custody, get a therapist saying why it is not in the child's best interest to change, and instead, the ex hubby should be flying in and seeing his son more often, instead of be ling disassociated from the kid.
You probably have the lo aw on your side, because hubby is way out of the area, and you can object to change of custody, but allow ex hubby moire sustain by coming to yo9Ur covenant.Wifes X want custody of our 13 year old son, how can we prevent this?try to find out weakness of x father. that will support youWifes X want custody of our 13 year old son, how can we prevent this?SON IS NEED OF MOTHER GIVE HERWifes X want custody of our 13 year old son, how can we prevent this?Most boys of that age want and need to be with their fathers. It is shameful that his mother and father live across the country from each other! If you want him in your life so badly and the kid wants to live with his father, move your family to where the father lives. That way you could have more visitation with him.Wifes X want custody of our 13 year old son, how can we prevent this?My ex did the same think. We had been divorced 8 years and I had remarried. He remarried had 2 kids and decided he wanted mine too. I don't have other children. They where 12 and 14 when he decided to do this. He lives 7 hours from us. They have been at the same school, friends, etc. But the difference in my case was .My ex was abusive in our marriage, which believe it or not does not matter?? Very manipulative, narcissistic. He only saw the kids on Summer brake for 6 weeks, a week Christmas, a week Thanksgiving. For 8 years he never came to a birthday, they both played baseball, basketball, soccer, track, and cheerleader and NEVER watched them play. He did pay 200.00 a month child-support sometimes(funny, he thought I was spending it on myself)but never helped me pay any Dr. bills either. Anyway, one summer he asked them if they wanted to live with him, they said yes Dad, he took them to a Counselor and they told her they wanted to live with him. It was HELL, I was freaking out. I did not understand. I will give God all the credit for this, but he ended up getting a Hot shot lawyer, I had a good lawyer I wish I could go into detail here cause it may help but it would be long, Long story short , this took 3 years and 10,000.00 dollars. My youngest daughter ended up coming to me after a year now, and said she did not want to go and she told me these wild stories her Dad was telling them. INSANE!! Which we could not prove but gave me something to look for. He tried making me and my husband look like trash. It was bad, bad. I would not wish this on anyone. But, The good thing that came out of this. I won, and they increased my child support to 600.00 and he has to pay Dr. bills.the look on his face. PRICELESS!! Advice. Keep a journal with dates and times anytime the child sees the Father and note anything. Very important cause you forget and it will take a long time. Look under parental alienation, and there are 12 guidlines they go by. My oldest actually said she wanted to live with her Father. He was abusive to me, I could not let her go. He did not see the kids for 2 years after he lost. Good Luck. I will be praying for you. Your wife will need you.
